We all tend to be our own worst critics, but sometimes, women tend to magnify their so-called flaws even more. However, it takes major reflection to be able to call out your own self-deprecation.
Take Louise Aubery, for example. According to Refinery29, the student and blogger recently took to Instagram to post side-by-side photos of herself, one in which she points out all the things she thinks are “wrong” with her body and her looks, while in the duplicate image, she highlights what viewers of the image likely see.
” I always see what is wrong. ‘Too close.’ ‘My nose appears too big.’ ‘My legs look too white.’ ‘I look terrible,'” she wrote in the photo’s caption. “This is usually what follows when someone show me a picture they took of me .”
However, Aubery continued by saying that she is never as harsh on other people as she is on herself.
“On the contrary, I tend to focus on their assets,” she said. “So why not do the same with yourself?”
Refinery29 reports that she later told Metro that the post was inspired by noticing that social media has, in her eyes, allowed us to compare ourselves to others instead of acting as an empowerment tool. Yet, while Aubery notes that she hoped her post would help inspire women to go easier on themselves, she told Metro it ultimately takes time for anyone to stop the self-criticism.
“It can’t happen in one day and it all comes down to practice: waking up telling you three things you are grateful for today, stating one thing you like about yourself every time you caught yourself despising something, and actually talking about it with like minded people.”